Welcome to my blog.
I’m finally going to address the elephant in the room (or rather on IG). My followers on IG skyrocketed after people posted my viral dance video which I have never addressed publicly.
I’m sure some of you were thinking:
a) I didn’t know she had so much energy.
b) How can a bride be dancing with so much reckless abandon?
c) Was she drunk?
I’ve gotten so many similar questions from family and friends.
No – I wasn’t possessed or drunk. Someone even told me that her mum thought I was ‘wild’ after seeing the dance video that went viral. Lol.
Let me jump right into why/how I “danced like David danced” on my wedding day.
1. My desire to have fun on my wedding day
I was a horrible dancer even though I loved to dance. It’s like I had two left feet lol. You know what they say about there being a way when there’s a will? Yup! You got it! I was extremely determined to have the most fun at my wedding. Everything didn’t go as planned (I’ll probably address this in another post – stay tuned. Hehe) but I still had fun to the max! I’m one of those people who dreamt of their wedding day since they were a teenager and I had this perfect picture in my head which included being happily married to the man of my dreams and expressing that joy! Two of my friends, Dolapo & Posi, helped me to achieve that dream by working on my dance moves. A year ago, I couldn’t ‘shaku shaku’ or ‘zanku’ without looking like a huge joke! (Thanks girls for being patient with me and teaching me all the moves). I’m a fast learner so I picked up these moves in no time; with constant practise of course! 😎.
2. Genuine joy to be marrying the love of my life
Secondly, I was genuinely happy to be getting married and doing life with my husband. I know you must be tired of all the clichés about how one is perfect for one’s spouse blah blah blah… but I must truly say that He’s perfect for me. God in His infinite mercies decided to give me a precious gift in human form – my husband, after I had almost given up on men in general (aftermath of failed relationships). I will share a post on the lessons that I learnt from them because I believe that there’s always a lesson or two to learn from every single experience that one faces in life. So it’s safe to say that the joy that I felt was from within and I couldn’t even hold back the joy by dancing till I was tired!
3. I had the best hype team a.k.a Bridesmaids
My bridesmaids were amazing! I had 15 bridesmaids (don’t judge me) and they were all there to hype me while I danced. I’d like to publicly acknowledge and thank all my bridesmaids. You guys were fantastic and I love you all.
4. I decided not to care about anyone’s opinion and just have fun!
I’m usually not one to gravitate towards the spotlight and in the past, I used to worry about what people thought about me. The truth is, over the years, I have come to realise that people would still talk about you or disagree with you regardless of what you do. The most important thing is your happiness and that you’re not harming anyone in the process. If I had decided to be forlorn because of people’s opinions, people would still have said, “why isn’t she looking happy?” … the list goes on and on .
5. Wedding planning/stress was finally over!
Trust me, it’s not easy planning a wedding. At a point, I lost about 8KGS (I even had to adjust my wedding dress about 4 times because your girl kept losing weight!) – I was so stressed and didn’t really have much of an appetite. I honestly couldn’t wait for the wedding planning to end and for the marriage to begin. So in the midst of meeting with vendors, going for fittings and driving in Lagos traffic, I promised myself that I would enjoy myself to the fullest on my wedding day as a reward for all the stress and unintentional weight loss.
Even though everything didn’t go as planned, I was thrilled that the day was a joyous and glorious one. My joy was full and overflowing (thank You Jesus!). After the ceremony was over, I got to the hotel, took a shower and crashed! My body hurt for like 2 weeks after the wedding from all that dancing as expected.
Do you see yourself dancing like I did? Or would you rather keep it simple? Let me know in the comments section below.
Thank you so much for reading!